December 20, 2006

Who's your daddy? Who the eff cares?

Edo G - Be A Father to YOUR Child (
Joe Quarterman and Free Soul - Thanks Dad (
Desmond Dekker - Honor Your Mother and Your Father (
UPDATE: Tupac - Papaz Song (download/stream) - props to cb4

I don't mean to go all Bill Cosby on you, but WHAT'S GOIN' ON? The Washington Post continues their National Geographic style break down of the Negrosaurus, an elusive creature, on the verge of extinction. This installment is entitled Dad, Redefined and attempts to explain the lack of fathers in the Black community.

Much like Cosby, instead of talking to the people, the Post waxes philosophical, using marriage rates, shifting sexual mores, and Jim Crow amongst their explanations for lack of Black fatherhood. To add to their realness, they even to talked to a Negrosaurus family. One family. How is this different from Jane Goodall and her gorillas? YOU tell me.

People lie, numbers don't. 69 percent of Black children are born into single-mother households. 48 percent of Black children are raised in single-mother households. Period. 100 percent of those kids are going to grow up effed the eff up. We can wax philosophical about how black and white histories are different, or we could face facts. We could wait til those kids become 18. We could wait until the world has forgotten about them. We could wait until those kids are older and begin blaming them for their problems. We could wait until the government will call them "adults." We could incarcerate them. At least we got options.

Retroactive problem solving is easier. Ya know, like putting a band-aid on the .38 slug that just penetrated your chest.

How is Bloomberg facing endemic New York City poverty? He's gonna open up some more goverment offices. Center for Economic Opportunity. Has a nice ring to it, doesn't it? It sounds great on paper doesn't it? If impoverished people don't have money, it makes sense to just spend money fixing the problem, doesn't it? It sure makes the TRUE Billionaire Boys Club smile, doesn't it?

Change is only going to come from within. Cosby coming to your district, to lure parents to become involved in their child's education ain't gonna cut it. Need incentives to help your kids? Cosby is the last of your solutions. A new government office is the last of your solutions.

Who's YOUR daddy?


Anonymous Anonymous said...

You make some very good points. I think what was pretty naively left out of the whole article is the fact that crack in the early 80s has a helluva LOT to do with black families disappearing. I can't believe the author left that out because it has to be a HUGE part of the reason why we have the situation we have now. People were strung out!!!

In general though, I agree with your sentiments. One last thing though, I think numbers do lie. Jay-Z seems to have made that "numbers don't lie" shyt popular, but really, numbers can definitely lie. The key to analyzing these so-called statistics is to find out how first where they came from and second how they were derived. A lot of these stats are fugazi that people throw out there.

Lastly, when it comes to music, numbers can totally lie. Especially when Jeezy's going 350K in the first week and Nas is going 200K...The real music isn't moving units anymore. "claiming hip-hop is still alive/like ya'll ain't in agreement with NaS/"

1:03 PM  
Blogger Amadeo said...

I heard that. Folks look all around and do surveys and studies...then leave them so that other academics can study them later. Too bad these cats will be grown, angry and not sure why you care if they take care of their kids or not. Doesn't the system do that (poorly)?

1:30 PM  
Anonymous CB4 said...

First line of the article: "When 19-year-old Donn? McDaniel became pregnant last year, Tim Wagoner didn't consider marrying her."
Hmm.. I wonder if the writer has a bias to start with?
Secondly, they didn't even edit out that question mark at the end of her name? Gotta love the attention to detail.

Anyways, this made me thing of the Pac track, Papa'z Song:

"That's why I'll never be a father;
Unless you got the time it's a crime don't even bother!"

There are tons of factors within the problem, but for one thing not everyone's cut out to be a father, plain and simple.
I'm thankful that my father was cut out for it - he was away a lot, but there's still no substitute for growing up with a Dad. No one taught me more than he did.


2:22 PM  
Blogger vik said...

@mikesee - damn, i can't believe they left out the crack epidemic. their "research" is lookin more and more suspect.

the numbers thing is true, the question is, what are we gonna DO, now that we have those numbers???

@amadeo - yeah. fact finding is ONE step. the question is, what are going to DO now that you have these facts?

@cb4 - another fire track. i am always thankful for the presence of two caring parents in my life. i don't know where we would be without em...

12:25 AM  
Blogger Hummingbyrd said...

Being raised in a single mother house hold is not the only predictor of being a f*cked up person.

Many mommas do all good by they selves.

However, having a extended network to assist w/ the young bucks is what is needed.

Not nesc a nuclear fam.

Sometimes having a dad in the house can do just as much harm as good.

4:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i've been looking for be father for a while now, so big thanks for posting it.

12:48 AM  

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